Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Inspiring New Year Resolutions

With 2012 fast approaching, do you find you are a person who makes a promise to lose weight, join the gym, eat healthier, quit smoking, get out of debt, travel, or be less stressed? But as February approaches you are totally stressed out and find yourself turning your back to your New Year's resolution.

Are you willing to be inspired to try a different approach this year?

We had previously discussed how thoughts effect our actions. Therefore, it is beneficial to focus on our thoughts, so that you can change your actions.

This may not sound easy, but the effort is worth it when you reap the wonderful results. Let’s discuss how you can change your thoughts in order to fulfill this New Year’s resolution.

1. First, you need to become a witness to your own thoughts.

2. Next, ask yourself: "Is this thought a positive, negative or wasteful thought?”

3. Then change the negative, wasteful thoughts into positive and harmonious ones.

Finally, focus on your self: how does my body feel, how is my outlook on life, how are my interactions with others?

The world is a reflection of who you are within.

How people react to you is a reflection of how you approach them; what you think and feel about them. But what if you really dislike some one? My answer would be: try to find one positive quality about them. So that when you meet or think about them, try to focus on that one quality. In this way the relationship can start taking a turn in the opposite direction.

New Year’s resolutions are a great time to start change because as another year passes, we begin to realize that time lost is never gained back. How did you spend your precious time this past year? Did you dwindle it away with gossip, meaningless chatter, endless t.v, and internet? If so, is this the year you want to spend quality time with people around you, educating yourself, and becoming introspective? All of these qualities can help you to live a more balanced and peaceful life.

Are you tempted to try it? Let me know, and I can help you fulfill your New Year’s resolutions.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Unconditional Happiness

Feelings are so important to us because we base our sense of happiness on our feelings.

We think we have to achieve something, acquire something or be in a certain relationship in order to be happy. Actually, we don’t need any of these things to be happy. We just need to approach our feelings in a certain way to experience a sense of happiness unrelated to achievement, possession or relationships. That’s called: Unconditional Happiness.

In today’s society there seems to be a huge gap: we are intellectually advanced, but emotionally unaware. The goal of unconditional happiness is to create a balance between intellect and emotion, thinking and feeling, reason and intuition.

Have you noticed that you may have strong negative feelings that you can’t seem to resolve, like: depression, loneliness, anxiety, etc…. You may also be experiencing active emotions such as: anger, jealousy, fear, which erupt from time to time, especially in intimate relationships, where our buttons get pushed the most.

Most of us are locked into fixed, limiting patterns that we find difficult to get out of. Until we release the feelings associated with these patterns, we will be unable to change. For example: Negative feelings cause stress and stress is merely a negative emotion we are unable to release. This does not mean that we can be stress-free all the time. Even in our most positive relationships, we will from time to time experience periods of loneliness.

When we resist an experience, that negative energy gets trapped and held in our emotional and physical body. This in turn leads to suppression. A suppressed emotion goes into the subconscious, and creates a body of unresolved feelings and emotions, waiting to be released. The problem with suppressed emotions is: if we don’t consciously release the feelings, they will start coloring our experience, making us react in unreasonable and destructive ways. Often we blame the other person for our feelings because we are not aware that our own unresolved issues are being triggered.

What is the solution? Not to resist those negative feelings, but to allow yourself to experience them. Know that when you allow yourself to feel the feelings, they will come to a completion and you can then be free of them.